I am a recently single guy and just realized how hard it seems to be to meet new people (men or women) in the City. One craigslist post summed it up well, “Ever notice how people (downtown anyway) just walk right past each other, no eye contact? Creepy.”
I heard a great Perspective on KQED on a closely related topic: why do we crave proximity but not intimacy with those around us?
It seems like after college there is no regular, required ‘mixing’ environment. University offered 5-7 new classes each semester, a forced shared living environment, and communal extracurricular activities.
Of course, there’s always the workplace, but that’s often ineffective. Coworkers are in varying stages of life connected only by an employer, not a shared desire to meet others.
Bars are okay, but alcohol gets in the way of real interactions. In the City, Zeitgeist is a good bar for meeting people, especially when it’s busy and you’re forced to sit next to strangers.
KQED Perspective: Proximity Without Intimacy